A gentle reflection on the holiday season - acknowledging its warmth and complexity, and offering simple ways to move through it with grounding and care.

For those who always hold it all together - this reflection explores the quiet grief of being “the strong one,” the weight of early caregiving roles, and gentle ways to return to yourself. Includes a mindfulness practice, plus updates on in-person therapy and an upcoming MBSR group.

Have you ever felt frustrated that your healing isn’t happening fast enough? That no matter how much therapy, mindfulness, or reflection you do, there are still moments that feel heavy?

If so, you’re not alone.

Healing isn’t about rushing to the finish line. It’s about learning to meet yourself where you are - with patience, self-trust, and a willingness to grow.

People-pleasing can feel like an overwhelming compulsion to prioritize others’ needs, often at the expense of your own. Many of my clients resonate with this behaviour, but I prefer to frame it as self-abandonment, as it involves neglecting your needs to avoid the discomfort of disappointing others.

Understanding and healing from this pattern is crucial for anyone seeking to reclaim their well-being, improve relationships, and cultivate self-worth.

How many times have you wished you could make your family member, partner or colleague stop treating you the way they do?

So many of us think that setting boundaries are for the other person. As a therapist and a mental wellness coach, many of my clients ask me how they can get people to treat them better or how they can get others to respect their boundaries.

I tell them that they are looking at boundaries incorrectly - Boundaries are for you not them!

Boundaries allow you to create the environment you need - whether mental, emotional or physical, and frees you to live your life on your terms.